Our eyes see a lot, a lot of the things we see we perhaps wish we wouldn’t see. Seeing your age mates land jobs, get married, buy their first, second or third homes while you are barely getting by…your table is full of bills in envelopes you don’t want to open, you are so tired from your second job you can’t feel your legs, your facebook account has nothing going on. You wish you wouldn’t see anything more than you are right now. You feel tired, like no matter what you do things don’t seem to work out.
The hard fact hard fact is that life is a journey, everyone is on their own journey. The challenge here is that we see each other’s journeys. We sometimes get envious, feel left behind, get challenged or feel consoled by how better it seems you are doing from the next person. We are constantly comparing ourselves with other people when the truth is, you don’t know what those people have been through. You have no idea the fights they had to fight, the scars they bear, the tears they’ve cried. You have no clue.
You don’t know if what you’re going through right now is what they went through a year ago. How would you know when you are busy comparing yourself to them? If they told you their story you may not believe them, it may look like an attempt to lift your spirits by making their lives look so dark.
Here is another truth, you need to embrace YOUR life. You need to begin living, be deliberate about where you are headed. Acknowledge that no one said it would be easy, no one said you won’t hurt, but as the journey continues, you grow and you heal. And the things that were hard, you realized helped you build some muscle, and somewhere along the way, you began getting stronger.
Take a minute and check the lenses through which you look at life. Take a minute and see that you are healthy, you have family that loves and believes in you, you have a bed to lay your head in the night. Change those lenses and begin to see life in a different light, go a day without comparing yourself, go a week, then a month and eventually refuse to compere yourself with anyone but to celebrate each milestone and use every set back as a set up for the next victory. Appreciate yourself, love yourself, love your journey and live your life! You are worth it!